My Blog
Will the real you please stand up!
Most people are not living the real version of themselves, but a false version. The reason for this is adaptation. As humans we have developed an instinctive ability to adapt to our social environment, much like a chameleon changing color to match its surroundings....
My greatest lesson in life
There’s a lovely documentary on Netflix called ‘Bears’ that follows a female Brown bear as she raises her cubs in Alaska. The program highlights that there are certain mission critical lessons she needs to teach the youngsters in the ever-changing terrain, things like...
Trust – the currency of relationships
The definition of trust is ‘the firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something’. The value of trust is much like the value of a currency. Right now, the Russian Ruble is relatively strong in value which seems strange if not fickle, given...
Born to be wild!
I remember the day my daughter was born as a standout life defining moment. There is nothing more natural, wild, and emotionally awakening, apart from death, than the birth of a fellow creature. She came into the world, literally bright eyed and bushy tailed, and as...
Slave you will remove your helmet!
These were the dramatic words spoken by Emperor Commodus to Maximus Decimus Meridius in the final scene of Gladiator in the colosseum before their fight to the death. For me it was a battle between culture and nature, Commodus in a seemingly impenetrable position of...
Existence versus Experience
Most people live their lives at an experiential level, whilst very few live at an existential level. The latter requires a certain knowledge, understanding, and practice. I think both are life enhancing, but one without the other results in an unbalanced and...
Anxiety and Depression – Be Gone!
In the first year of the COVID-19 pandemic, the global prevalence of anxiety and depression increased by a massive 25%, according to a scientific brief released by the World Health Organization (WHO). They also highlighted the following. 1 in every 8 people in the...
What’s your drumbeat?
Tuning into your own internal, natural drumbeat is essential if you are to live a fulfilling and productive life. Unfortunately, the way we have been socialized and conditioned over the last 3000 years has switched and turned us off to our own rhythm. We have been...
The Arms Race – Unaddressed Fear and Anger
Fear is one of the six primary human emotions, the others being anger, guilt, shame, sadness, and joy. They are like the primary colors of a rainbow or spectrum from which all other colors originate. This palette of human emotions was always meant to be fully...
Pit-bulls and Humans
Lately we have been hearing of more attacks by pit-bulls, giving the breed a bad reputation for violence. The debate is whether it's in their nature or nurture? The answer lies squarely in their relationship with humans and our own troubled psyche. The behavior of a...
Spiritual Evolution?
M Scott Peck in ‘The Roadless Travelled’ describes how in our lifetime we all change and grow physically, but very few of us evolve spiritually. To evolve spiritually means to fundamentally change the essence of who we are. It requires something of a metamorphosis, as...
Developing Mental Flexibility
As human beings, we can think about our thinking, which is an extraordinary ability. Unfortunately, we are conditioned to not think at all. Like a fleet of refuse trucks, we are loaded with rubbish - waste products that those before us were forced to believe,...